I agree with jaeangel....

What I value most about my D/s relationship is the abundance of love, trust, and communication it brings with it. I never experienced such a degree of true intimacy or emotional vulnerability before my relationship with my Dominant. That is the best "bonding" experience for me Though being physically bound is amazing too, as it just heightens my awareness of my vulnerability to him (and vice versa).

What's really incredible is how profoundly honest communication improves a relationship. As stated in our contract, I am not allowed to keep my thoughts and feelings to myself, nor am I allowed to withhold anything from him when he asks. We are both very fulfilled and our needs are always met because of the ease of communication that being in a power exchange provides.

Aside from those things, I would say that Dominance/obedience is big for me too. Being in a crowded restaurant and having him correct me if I forget to call him Sir, or firmly placing his hand on the back of my neck to remind me of my place... these small actions have such an immense effect on me, and it drives me wild. Just the way he gazes down at my body or strokes the top of my head gets me more aroused than a ton of the vanilla sex I've had with others!

Discpline: Serious infliction of pain is up there too only he won't use pain in his punishments because I love it too much hehehe.