Quote Originally Posted by soledesire
Hi,

I'm new here, with a question that I hope one of you incredibly wise people can help me with. I've known for a long time -- actually, I can't remember not knowing -- that I am a sub. However, given a variety of reallly quite boring circumstances, I've never had the opportunity to explore that in RL or virtually. I'm in a very long-term relationship with a great guy who demonstrates little or no interest in this kind of play, much less a lifestyle. Of course, as mentioned in an earlier post, I've never actually brought it up, other than asking him to do specific things in limited circumstances. (He did them, but it was more a humoring me type of thing.) So, in order to facillitate communication about this subject, how do I bring it up?
Any suggestions you might have would be really appreciated.
Soledesire
The one problem about asking for advice is that most times people will give it, whether it is good, bad or just plain ugly. I have insewrted a couple of lines below that I wrote to another woman seeking her submissive soul. Hopefully it will give you some direction. Feel free to email me if you wish more one on one discussion.

It is not selfish or wrong to wish to be the "one" we believe we are. Unfortunately, your partner seems to not be one that may understand. You need to communicate your desires to Him, if you truly care and love Him. If He has the same intense feelings he will try to understand and work with you. The key is to figure out how to cope and to allow yourself, and your body to surface and to be come what you have always been destined to be, a loving, caring, fiery, craving being, who needs to be submissive for her true soul to shine.

I will be honest and tell you it is not easy, and sometimes seems to be just so high a cost, it would be easier to just deny your submissive being and let the other things (work, family, etc..) dominate you. Some women in your circumstances (trying to assert their submissive self) do deny themselves, feeling it is best to put the needs of others before their own. In a quirky sort of way some women feel this is kind of submissive, but when you really look at it, it is more a martyr complex than a submissive. Unfortunately, a submissive woman will come to regret this in the future, and will resent those things that they feel have been responsible for causing them to deny their core being.

SirW