for taking the time to respond to my question. In an amazing way, you all addressed what was a (poorly worded but nevertheless) multifaceted question.

Omitting my profile wasn't intentional -- I thought I'd filled it in. Sorry. Yes, absolutely I want someone to force me to be a slut (I'm really poor at domesticity, period, so the slave thing won't work) -- I just want it to be Mr. V and, even if I didn't, finding another Mr. is not an option, for all the reasons Jaeangel listed. He's my best friend and I can't imagine my life without him.

Time alone is in chronically short supply around here and maybe that's part of the problem. One of the things that I've realized as I've read various posts is how deliberate (without getting too Oprah) this kind of relationship is. It's not something we can fall into.

Again, I really appreciate the responses I've gotten. You've given me a lot to think about.

s/d