Are you a submissive who has actually contacted a Dominant?
I found my Master though his forum posting to another site that I found to very interesting. His post to me was very well thought out, and I just had me wanting to talk with him further, thus I emailed him and asked if he would be interested in being chat buddies.

Chat buddies might have been the intent, but about 72 hours later we where meeting for lunch and within that month we where a couple and he had collared me.

So to me it is totally alright for a sub to contact a dominant.