I'm very, very sorry for your loss, Russell. I see so many funerals, but it still hurts every time. All I can say is to celebrate her life and be thankful for the time you had, rather than dwell on the time you didn't. Without an end, there is no completion to a life's work, and that completion is what gives it purpose.

As an aside, as one in the industry I'm happy to assist you with any "technical" questions about the funeral and memorialization process. It's something most of us don't talk about, and can therefore be pretty confusing to face in an emotional time.