How hard is too hard?

[NightDaughter]

Well for myself there is a great deal that I consider to be light bdsm and not in the extreme of things. Yet for many people my idea of extreme is to some way to freaking extreme depending on who you talk with etc.

Everyone has their point of view when watching things happen at a play party or even on film. I have seen many things that make me sick because to me they are that way, yet I have also seen things that make me go hmmm I wonder.

To me as long as all parties involved enjoy what is happening and that no lasting damage or harm is dun that that is what matters the most, its when the lines are crossed and nothing is dun about it that to me that is just sick and wrong.

[stummer]

it just a matter of perspective as most things are in the world, some one looking in from the out side has no knowledge of the people involved and there feelings which is surley the most important thing, both sence sounds wonderfully, intresting and diffrent which is always a good thing.

[Kibbick]

I feel that a good rule of thumb is that nothing is too hard or too soft to be considered BDSM. All that BDSM requires is some element of power exchange and the guidelines of “Safe, Sane, and Consensual”. This can be anything from a pair of handcuffs or just the idea of power exchange all the way to long recovery times or even permanent marking. As long as safety is taken into account and everyone is having a good time, how is another to say it is wrong? The question of what is enjoyable to watch is, however, a different question, and varies greatly from person to person and group to group. It is impossible to please everyone; one can only try to please the majority, and clubs cater to a diverse group of people, so some will enjoy something, and others will not and might complain. My only real advice would be to try to measure the crowd and do the best one can.