I have to disagree with you, allalone46, for a number of reasons. First, your statement that “he let his anger get in the way” seems to be unsupported by slave_poodle’s post. It appears to me from her post that he was in control, and only made a mistake. Second, I feel that you are too harsh on an inexperienced relationship. We all make mistakes and if this is the worst he makes, he will have done very well. Third, you seem to be imposing limits on another’s relationship. Granted, slave_poodle’s partner made a mistake, but it is up to him and slave_poodle to decide the degree of the error. It sounds to me that they both were accepting of a beating and that he only went a little too far. Your disagreement with drawing blood seems to be from a personal position rather then from an open-minded regard on another’s relationship. I, for one, have seen much greater punishments in healthy and active BDSM relationships. You repeatedly cite “Safe, Sane and Consensual,” although it seems to me that this relationship follows these guidelines. Blood is not dangerous as long as one cleans and disinfects the wounds, this was obviously consensual, and appears to have been done with level heads. My recommendation for slave_poodle would be to reassure her partner, perhaps slow down a little bit, but not to stop. It is a little like falling off a horse; the best thing to do is to get right back on again.