I know this sounds corny, but the best thing you can probably do to find information fast is A) read a book don BDSM, B) visit BDSM help websites like http://www.castlerealm.com and http://www.adarkwhisper.com, and C) ask a LOT of questions to anybody that will listen to you.

The people here, and there are about 7000 of them last I looked, are fairly knowledgeable, capable of answering your questions, and with that broad of a knowledge base, whatever your kink or experience, it is very likely that someone knows something about it and something to help you.

Also, the person to whom you should be speaking the most is your partner. Ask her questions, tell her your ideas, talk to her about what interests you. The person that can give you the best feedback about your relationship is her.