Quote Originally Posted by tessa View Post
Learning with an expert just might be the ticket to our paradise. I'll give him your idea. I have to say that while I'm not so keen on the idea of my husband sleeping around with a lot of women (even for the reason of learning more), for myself, I am quite intrigued by it. That expert doesn't necessarily have to be male, I wouldn't think. My, the images that idea has spawned.
A common misconception is that BDSM play has to be about sex. Sex is nice, but trust is important to, and if someone insists on sex as a part of play you should avoid them. You will learn this as you become more familiar with the lifestyle.

As for guidance, or mentoring, that is probably a good idea, discuss all aspects of it, and see if you are comfortable with it in R/l. If not, just ask around here, we are more than willing to help.