kitten,

We have discussed this a bit in private, but since I just discovered this thread here I thought I would make my point in public.

BDSM is biblical in the sense od the D/s aspect of the lifestyle. But the real key of making it work is for the man to fulfill his duty first.

Let me quote here:

Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One). Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body. As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless]. Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members (parts) of His body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church. However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. (Eph 5:21-31 AMP)
Please note that a women is required to submit to her husband, but the husband is also required to submit to her and to Christ. The love that the husband feels fro Jesus enables him to submit, obey, and serve.

He thus is able to present his wife to himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinke. He sees her as holy and faultless. I do not know about anybody else, but I think that the man has the greatest challnge here. He must love his wife, be able to see her faults to help her correct them, yet present her to himself without those faults.

Would this make it easier for a wife to submit? I believe so. In fact, if it does not there is something seriously wrong with her.

Does this apply in the BDSM life? Of course. The marvelous thing about truth is that it always applies. There are those who do not understand the life that would say that it is condemned by Jehovah, but I would point out that as londg as it happens in the sanctity of marraige, and is mutual, it is blessed by Him.