Quote Originally Posted by PopeRozen
...Should we... adopt a more black-and-white, logical point of view, or a view that encompasses the entirety of the spectrum with no arbitrary distinctions? Well, there really is no should about it, everyone must find their own balance. But is it more useful one way or the other? Is there a more useful mindset to be in while "in-scene?" Certainly such strict adherence to one mentality cannot be beneficial in all situations, perhaps not even in all scenes.
I guess you pretty much answered your own question there.

To put it another way, I view definitions and labels as limits. So everytime I ask myself those very questions you posted I also ask myself: Do I want any limits as to What, How and Who I want to be?

As a sub I can tell tou not all dom/mes think alike. They are all into it for wildly different reasons and you can see it in the way they play. Similarily, I do not believe two subs go into the lifestyle for the same reason.