@Tourguide:
Thanks for the links!

C) ask a LOT of questions to anybody that will listen to you.
Well, just started to do that, didn't I? ;-)

Also, the person to whom you should be speaking the most is your partner. Ask her questions, tell her your ideas, talk to her about what interests you. The person that can give you the best feedback about your relationship is her.
Yep, that's clear. While in such a situation there wouldn't be much of a relationship to give feedback about, talking about ideas and interests would certainly be the key.


The problem is that it IS a fantasy wherein your partner is into everything you are no matter what it is.
I guess it is just like Tourguide said - the key is talking. As long as nobody is fixated on his/her "one-and-only"-fantasy, there should be some fantasies to share.

I'd see that as better suited to those with vanilla interests.
Well, it is less complicated for them, isn't it? No need to be afraid to be forgotten in bondage or being baited by a mob of radical feminists...



Thanks for the answers, both of you!