Andi,

I thought it was a great post, as I have had to deal with a crying sub a few times myself. Although I'm not always sure what's going on in her mind, in fact quite rarely, when she starts crying I know we've gotta take 5 and sort things out. I guess lots of times it emotional overload, coupled with the physical stress.

The dividing line is funny too, my sub/gf said she had "wanted to be mine." This was really confusing for me, does she want to be a 24/7 slave? Does she want to only be my sub? Or does she just want a committment. And I do use the terms "pet" and "kitten" to talk to her and describe her, but she is not always acting like a pet or a kitten, and is reluctant to conform to that "type" of submissive. One of the hardest things is defining roles, and what we've come to agreement upon is that as a couple, we should not try to hard to fit any Ds "role."