slightly off-topic, I got the question yesterday in another forum: can you be a masochist if you don't enjoy pain at all, really and clearly hate being punished by your partner and you see it as just a test of your endurance and ability to paly the part?
-No, you can't. At least I can't see any true masochist responding that way. Then of course, being left alone and discarded (if just for the night) is a harsh punishment.