Hi Pollywog, it's great to see you come on board and you've no need to feel intimidated. Some of the things you've heard that s/m people are into will seem scary (hoods? cum control? electric torture?) but around this forum you'll meet all kinds of people from newcomers to those who have been living this lifestyle in some way for ten years or more. No reason to feel small because you're new, we were all newbies once.
There's lots of things you can bring to your feeling of submission, do remember you and your guy will define it, in the end, for yourselves: there's no clear-cut rulebook what you have to do to merit being called an A+ sub or a "good slave".

This is a community whre it's easy to get to know people, hope to see you around.