Wow, Stone's Slut,
I really enjoyed reading your posts in this thread. It is so good to read such well-written sentiments on D/s and feminism from an obviously intelligent, educated, and talented woman.
I think a lot of the wannabe doms need to read and understand everything you wrote... I say that because my ex-husband-to-be thought he was dominant in that he just wanted me to never argue with him or state my own opinion. I tried explaining to him how I can be a strong and assertive female and yet still submissive (to him or the right person) at the same time. I consider him a wannabe dom b/c I just don't think he gets the critical point you made about feminism and D/s- that WE HAVE A CHOICE!!- a choice about who we want to be, what we will accept, and from whom we will accept it!
I struggled with wanting to be a stay-at-home mom, a.k.a. household manager- which i find a very apt term- and being a feminist. I remember commenting to a friend about this year ago that I felt like i would be betraying womankind if i chose to be a homemaker, but she said that the point is i have the choice to do whatever i want.
Well, Stone's Slut, thank you for your openness and your well-worded posts. I hope all is going well for you and your king.

by the way- I think it is very sweet and extra considerate of you to recognize each individual who replied to your post.