Ozme52
I agree and I listen better then most, part of my professional training as a problem solver requires it, but mine probably formerly mine hears what she wants to hear and then what she wanted to hear becomes fact. Leaving me with the choice of punishment or release. This has been an ongoing issue with her so release may be the only way out and save my sanity.
I listen to her know her as well as anyone has ever known her according to her, but her trust issues may just be too much for my love and desire to overcome. She doesn't realize that each time she goes off on one of these tangents based on a misunderstanding that when I explain things to her that her rejection of it is an affront to me and all I hold dear. My honor, her respect of me/us and her pride in me.
A year of training and explanations haven't really changed the way she responds when stressed. I wish it was different
Russell