Quote Originally Posted by Sir_Russell View Post
Ozme52

I agree and I listen better then most, part of my professional training as a problem solver requires it, but mine probably formerly mine hears what she wants to hear and then what she wanted to hear becomes fact. Leaving me with the choice of punishment or release. This has been an ongoing issue with her so release may be the only way out and save my sanity.

I listen to her know her as well as anyone has ever known her according to her, but her trust issues may just be too much for my love and desire to overcome. She doesn't realize that each time she goes off on one of these tangents based on a misunderstanding that when I explain things to her that her rejection of it is an affront to me and all I hold dear. My honor, her respect of me/us and her pride in me.

A year of training and explanations haven't really changed the way she responds when stressed. I wish it was different

Russell

I think even good subs at times feel overwhelmed by the enormity of their submissiveness.Maybe when other stresses are too high,they tend to take it out on the one relationshp that is most dear to them,and that seems to the dom as insubordination...of course it's true that some are just deceiving themselves but hard to say what's what in such cases.I prefer to withdraw a little,and see what develops. A true sub always come back all the more penitent and you can punish her/him as you see fit...