A major problem with stating what you think you get out of a BDSM relationship is that it doesn't cover people who don't know or think they knew and are wrong.

For me it's pretty simple. It's what I need, and is what makes me happy. I don't think I need to dig deeper than that. Seeing her kiss my feet or just bring me tea fills me up with such a warm feeling.

I used to think I knew and had fancy theories for it, but I was dead wrong.