Quote Originally Posted by duktig flicka
I'm asking this essentially so I (and you, too) can figure out what common mistakes are and learn to avoid them. The question is simple. What is it that you would like to change about your partner's performance in bed, either as a sexual technique or in terms of bdsm?
I like this post. I guess I'd have to agree that frequency is the biggest complaint. Kids/work/social obligations seem to limit us to about one true "session" a month it we're lucky.

My g/f is very into bdsm and loves the mixture of pain & sex that seems to intensify it through the roof. There are times when I wish she were a little more wild and experimental...but I don't push it. Here's why.

My wife (10 years ago) was extrememly attractive but a little shy in bed. I pressured her for along time (yes, I admit that I did it and it was wrong) to try threesomes, other girls etc. Eventually she did it. We had some great sex for a little while...right up until she divorced me and married one of those other guys. I'm very happy and in a healthy relationship now but it took a long time to get over the loss because I loved her very much...even though I wasn't very good at showing it.

But I did learn a valuable lesson that has stayed with me...

Be careful what you wish for, it might come true!