Quote Originally Posted by ThisGirl View Post
I think it depends how the mistake is handled.
Of course, if it's ignored, that might make me feel like they didn't care and didn't value me as an equal person.
i would hope for a heartfelt acknowledgement and apology... but not with the repercussions that might accompany a mistake i, as a sub made... i mean i wouldn't want to or expect to punish my dominant...well... hmmm... payback now could be fun...
i don't think it is a matter of "punishing" a Dominate who made a mistake (although that could be interesting... grinz). Just as it isn't a matter of groveling on the part of the Dominate. For me, the apology is important and needs to be sincere but the future handling of the "mistake" is what really speaks to me. If the mistake is one that is apologized for but yet no steps are taken to prevent the mistake from happening in the future that is when there is an issue to me. And i'm not saying that the "mistake" should never happen again. There are times it will happen, just hopefully not to the same extent, etc. as the previous time... it is more important for me to see that the Dominate is making an effort of growth/rebuilding for that mistake which tells me that my feelings were heard, understood and RESPECTED.

To me it all comes back to that... RESPECT. Once my respect for someone is gone there is no hope for that relationship any longer... i may love the person with my entire heart... but if i can't/don't respect them that damages every other aspect of the relationship....