D/s paper - looking for input!

[Eponine]

try this
http://www.leathernroses.com/mikael/mikaelindex.htm

just in case that doesn't work, go to
www.leathernroses.com where you will see a list of topics- look under "Absolute D/s" for J.Mikael Togneri's work.

His first essay listed there is titled the same as the topic (Absolute Lifestyle D/s) and i found it very eloquent on the subject. I actually emailed it to some of my vanilla friends so they could understand how D/s or BDSM is not just a kinky thing you do in the bedroom (although it can be, i suppose), but a part of my identity just as a gay person feels homosexuality is an inextricable part of their being.

And my own thoughts are- well 1) as i said in another post, i've never had an orgasm w/o a d/s thought, but that doesn't mean d/s is all about the sex, it's just that my sexuality is such a strong part of me, and 2) to me, being able to submit to someone is the ultimate act of trust and intimacy. In a good d/s relationship, i will hope the one i serve would know how to pull out my deepest, most graphic desires and fears and use them to help me grow into my potential as a human being. I could never feel closer to someone than when at my most vulnerable, being cradled and loved in their hands. and i would hope that my dominant's guidance of my journey would be a learning experience for him/ her as well- that we would learn more and more about ourselves and each other and love through these most intimate collaborations of feelings from our innermost sanctuaries.

Here are a couple of excerpts from a story and then an assignment i wrote for a Mistress and Sir i had at one time:

My unfailing acquiescence has become Your right now. i will always strive to please You and Sir, though the task may seem unbearably exacting at times. i always keep in mind that i have given myself to You, and You are constantly testing and stretching the limits of my service. This is the beauty of O/our relationship- its intensity perpetually magnifying O/our intimacy. Your protection and guidance over me grow in direct proportion to my submission and obedience to You; O/our bond to one another strengthens with every push of my unexplored peripheries. Every time i surrender to a new demand with determined yielding, W/we are rewarded with a deeper glimpse into each other’s spirit.

Submission is overcoming _all_ the fears- dealing with them, obeying anything and everything _despite_ any resistance- whether from fear or embarrassment, or just plain lack of desire for the given task. Submission is the bending of my will to someone else's; no more, no less. That is the meat of it, i think. And that entails everything and anything. There is no "No", only "Yes, Mistress. Yes, Sir." No if's, and's or but's. Submission is the giving of myself, my self, which is, as i've written: my body (easiest), my thoughts (not as easy), and my feelings (hardest).


I hope I haven't given too much... but I hope something in there is helpful for your essay, vistana.

i would love to read your essay when it's completed. Would you post it here? or email it to me when you finish?