I would have preferred to keep my ideas out of this as to not taint the answers. But I see that apparently I have not provided enough of a question to be answered.

My ideas of a dominant pretty much match those in the article.

Specifically on the list is:

  • Time
  • Attention
  • Love
  • Cares about me
  • Listens to me/Hears me
  • Honesty/Trust
  • Ability to communicate
  • Ability to guide
  • Respect


What I am confused on is that I have yet to meet a dominant that is able to maintain that list over time. And no, not just the love part. The love, at least according to everything been told to me, is not the issue here.