Quote Originally Posted by Pandora's Box
He always says he'll try, but no real tangible things seem to ever come. I have no proof that he even does try.
Which has clearly eroded your trust in him, or you wouldn't feel that needed saying.

He says he wants "us", wants me. For life.

But never acts on it. I'm beginning to feel like I'm in this relationship alone.
His job is important in his life and sets its own timetable and agenda. Remember that taking a job is taking on responsibility and commitment too. So he is capable of being the person you want him to be.

But if you (the two of you - Y/you ) don't set up a timetable for the "us" part of your life the job will win by being more organized. If he commits to time with you and then doesn't deliver, the job has already won. Retire gracefully. Leave a message admitting defeat and be prepared to go quietly. If he does respond make sure you meet as equals and he gets to know all that you feel.

Note that all of that advice applies to all kinds of relationship too. The only difference with D/s is that you have to more careful about the "meet as equals" bit.

Spike
who took time out from his work to answer this.