I indeed do have a lot to think about. What is missing is time, attention and listening. Possibly care.

He says he listens, but apparently as all the things I have asked for or said to him have gone in one ear and out the other, I have to think that he hasn't listened.

The reason I say possibly care is because I am beginning to come to the conclusion that it is entirely possible for a person to "love" another and not "care" about them. Or at least care enough to do something about problems being faced.

That leaves time and attention. I don't get enough of either. It is head-bangingly frustrating too. The little (so pathetically little) time we do spend together is usually fantastic. But... it's not enough. We haven't had a date night with just us for over a month. Literally. And that's with very little to no time spent together in between. It makes me wonder how he can say he loves me when I am not a big enough priority to make some time for.

And yes, I am super frustrated and feeling super neglected. And yes I have told him. But if it all goes in one ear and out the other... *sigh*

(Spike)
If he commits to time with you and then doesn't deliver, the job has already won. Retire gracefully. Leave a message admitting defeat and be prepared to go quietly. If he does respond make sure you meet as equals and he gets to know all that you feel.
That's exactly where we are at. How can he say he wants me for life if he doesn't even want to take actions to be with me? And if he does want it, he has a hell of a way of showing it.

This may very well be the end. And I don't want that. But... he may have already made the decision for me with his inaction.

I haven't even talked to him since last Wednesday. Sunday was our 6 month anniversary.

At this rate... I can't see good things for the future. I refuse to step into a life where his work will always be a greater priority than me. Work is important... but it won't keep his heart warm at night when he's in bed all alone.