[QUOTE=tessa;234596]Something I saw that looked like it fit here.

What might be of help when the D/s is not 24/7 is something that was successful for me and "C". Our relationship was mostly online. When we were online, she started her 1st post of the day with a specific icon for "D/s on." When we saw each other, she had a particular piece of jewelry that she wore for "D/s on." If the "D/s on" signs were off, there was simply no D/s. There didn't have to be a discussion about it. There may have come a time when we would have had to discuss frequency of on/off, but it was never an issue.