Quote Originally Posted by Havensov View Post
Ok, just cause I'm a smart ass...

If your wanting to introduce someone to BDSM that you are unsure how they will react... Log them into this site and let them find out what it is and what they want for them selves... then let them come to you with question...
I think I would have run a mile if I read some of the things which I read on this site in my early days. There are some of the more extreme elements which I now embrace and some which I don't think I ever will, and have no wish to either. That does not bother me now, but that is with the confidence of knowing that is okay just to pick out what is right for us.

To my mind it must be much easier for a "D" to introduce a "s" to the lifestyle than the other way round - almost by definition. I had been immediately hooked on my D's dominant personality, so I guess he had a head start; but he just introduced tiny things at a time, over months rather than weeks. His real skill was to keep me wanting a bit more each time. It was a good 6 months before he showed me anything resembling this site and asked me to give him my reactions.

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