For a long time, I've often told my husband I felt like he was my roommate other than my husband.. but he is the sort where I see him maybe 2 days a week. His schedule is such that he leaves for work at 2:30 PM, comes home at 3:30 AM, sleeps until 1-2 PM the next day, 4 days a week. In essence I never see him. On his days off, I consider myself lucky if he is not rushing off to help people who need him to fix vehicles, re-roof houses, repair fences... he just cannot tell these people no. I think of him as the White Knight... always rushing off to help those in need, and very often he seems to forget us at home.

But I also learned in the six years we've been together, dropping hints or guilt trips on him does NOT work. This man is as dense as a post when it comes to grabbing hints, and guilt trips only make him upset. He often feels like he cannot say no, because often these people have no one else to turn to.

In the end I have compromised. When it gets to be too much, I pull him aside and tell him to set aside at least one day of his weekend this week, because I miss him, and need to spend some time with him. Until this weekend, I have not seen him for any length of time, longer than 2 hours, for a month.

I just try to make the best of the time we do have together, but I do understand your frustration. Some men just get caught up in working to make their life better, to make our lives better, and forget that in the meantime, we're still here waiting!

I understand your frustration in this situation though, I know what it feels like to be married to a workaholic!