I figured, which is why I mentioned it - if you like being inclusive, then knowing how best to be so is helpful, no? Anyway, I didn't mean to derail the thread...
For me, when I'm domming I like inflicting pain. Lots of it. Pain and the fear of more pain. Whereas when I'm subbing, I'm far too wussy to take anything like that.I much prefer humiliation and servitude. But if I'm domming, then humiliating someone is kinda tepid, and I don't even want to be served, it just makes me feel responsible.