Quote Originally Posted by spike
Of the nine items there the only one that is not an essential part of the contribution of both sides to any close relationship is '8. Ability to guide'.
I would have to disagree with you here, Spike. In a way, the submissive does need to guide the Dominant for the Dominant cannot know what the submissive expects, wants, or needs without guidance from the submissive. As far as I am aware, Dominants are not mind readers.

Pandora, to me it sounds that you know exactly what you want and need from your dominant. Don;t let anyone else's short sightedness and negitivity deter you from what you feel is what will work for you. I am sure that you are well aware that no one is perfect all of the time -or any of the time- and didn't need it pointed out - especially so rudely. Stick to your guns and don't settle until you have what you are looking for.