The Responsibilities of a Dominant/Master

[Finding_Fantasy]

Of the nine items there the only one that is not an essential part of the contribution of both sides to any close relationship is '8. Ability to guide'.

I would have to disagree with you here, Spike. In a way, the submissive does need to guide the Dominant for the Dominant cannot know what the submissive expects, wants, or needs without guidance from the submissive. As far as I am aware, Dominants are not mind readers.

Pandora, to me it sounds that you know exactly what you want and need from your dominant. Don;t let anyone else's short sightedness and negitivity deter you from what you feel is what will work for you. I am sure that you are well aware that no one is perfect all of the time -or any of the time- and didn't need it pointed out - especially so rudely. Stick to your guns and don't settle until you have what you are looking for.

[mythicat]

Originally Posted by spike
Of the nine items there the only one that is not an essential part of the contribution of both sides to any close relationship is '8. Ability to guide'.

I would have to disagree with you here, Spike. In a way, the submissive does need to guide the Dominant for the Dominant cannot know what the submissive expects, wants, or needs without guidance from the submissive. As far as I am aware, Dominants are not mind readers.

(Psst - I think he was saying that's the one thing not essential in vanilla relationships. It's the one characteristic BDSM relationships have that vanilla relationships don't...at least not so overtly (my opinion).

[Pandora's Box]

It's over.

I opened the door. He never walked through.

[spike]

It's over.

I opened the door. He never walked through.

Fair lady, we are all sad with you. There are many men who know how to use doors. Next time ... you will know what to do. Always gain from what you learn.

Spike

[Spencergee]

It's over.

I opened the door. He never walked through.

His loss.

(and you can bake as well)!

[BDSM_Tourguide]

His loss.

(and you can bake as well)!

It was a rather nice-looking cake, wasn't it?

[e.b.]

Pandy,

I'm sorry to hear that. You deserve better. Let me know if I can do anything to help,

eb

[Wontworry]

That's shit Pan. But please. If its over then its over. Don't go back. It will only happen again.

[mythicat]

Pandora, you're an incredible woman with much to offer. Time to find a guy who will cherish that. *nod*