Thankyou Jaina (and others). I sent her the thread and email addy, and I had already asked her to have a friend standing by, but this is new to her and she's not ready to confide in someone living really close yet, which is partly why we were talking in the first place (she could confide in me because we only know each other o/l). At least she's been talking to this guy for a while now, so has some feeling for what he's like and says her apprehension level is about a 3... That's good, right?