ditto!

i don't think of 'lifestyle' as having a sexual definition...because like cariad said, yeah the kinky sex is great, but it is by no means the basis for my 'lifestyle'. it's part of my day to day life and has integrated itself into the smallest of things...such as Him having control over what i wear or what i eat for breakfast. mmmm....nothing sexual there. lol

i don't think calling it a lifestyle is what makes people think we are a big bunch of freaks. i think people just tend to shy away from what they don't understand. ~shrugs~