I have a question. I wouldn't say that my partner and I are into the BDSM lifestyle but we do seem to have a dominant and submissive thing going on between us. She says it turns her on to spank me and bite me and I know I see a delicious grin on her face while she is doing this. I also know that at one time she was involved with someone who was very much into receiving pain. And I know that I am quite intrigued with and turned on by erotic pictures of torture. I definitely want to do the candles because I know it will bring her pleasure and me as well. She loves for me to figure out what it is she likes rather than just telling me. What I would like to know is if anyone else has ever had this situation and how you went about finding out what they liked.