Congratulations Psy, and welcome back, yet again.

Let me tell you the most important thing I learned (quickly) when I began my r/l D/s relationship. It is a lot easier to be bratty when you aren't in arm's reach of Him.

When our relationship was still very new, I was certainly a brat at times. Partly because I was used to doing things my own way. And partly because I wanted to know where the boundaries were. Let me tell you, I found out in a hurry.

He told me that I seemed to be taking pride in being a brat, and being difficult to control, and warned me that over time I would either learn to control my behaviour or punishments would become harsher and more swift.

I still slip up. I certainly have a tendency to let my mouth get away from me. But I try my best to curtail the attention-seeking behaviour.

Another thing I learned.... when he asks you to do something, he really isn't asking. And the "now" is implied.

So I don't really have much advice for you, because I suspect your new Dom is going to handle this problem for you. But I understand where you are coming from. After a year online in the BDSM world, I thought I knew everything. Turns out I know nothing.

Everything is "more". More intense. More difficult. More fun. More fulfilling.

So take your time, and don't rush anything. Talk to your new Dom about how you are feeling, and what behaviours you want to change.

I am only three months in, so if you ever want to talk and compare notes, let me know.