Yes, dear, there are a couple of other threads on similar topics. One was about whether or not it was moral to cheat on a vanilla significant other, and the other is a little hazier, even though I only read it two days ago.

We'll see if we can get slavelucy or whoever is the moderator of the BDSM Life section to provide you the links. I think yours is different enough that no-one will want to merge threads.

And, to go further off-topic, how does one go about finding who moderates which section these days? It used to be listed next to the section title in the directory.

I hope you get some responses that are more to the point than this one was, caligatia.