Thanks Curtis, for going through and picking out all these great old threads! As a newer member, it's hard to get time to go back over so many good ones and so I love that you're doing the work for me.

Jae, I completely agree with your post except that I see trust, love, responsibility, and respect as essentials for dominance/obedience, so I put that one first.

I must admit though that the discipline/intense pain and humiliation choices were very close behind. Nikka, I'm there with you on not wanting to sully my reputation as a pain slut...but I decided that it could also be incorporated into the D/s.

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