Quote Originally Posted by pippa
I didn't mean to diss Doms I just meant that so far my experience has been that Doms are more interested in sex.
I don't take it as a criticism, but there does seem to be a tendency for Doms to be more sex-oriented. I'm good friends with a local Domme, but our attempts to set up some shared play sessions haven't worked out very well because her style doesn't involve anthing even indirectly sexual. In fact, I gather that she separates BDSM and sex completely: she and her girlfriend (who's also a Domme) have a completely vanilla relationship, and do BDSM but not sex with other people.

OTOH, this might be cultural. My SO, who is a Domme except with me (smirk), is from Scandinavia, and when I told her that most British BDSM clubs don't allow sex she was baffled: what's the point of going to a club if you can play but not fuck? In her view, that's like going to a restaurant and only having the soup.