Quote: Statistics show that abused people end up in BDSM because a significant number of people who are abused actually choose the personality type that likes to control them.

I agree with Rhabbi with this. Being controlled/submissive is a choice, but far different than being abused. I am one of these statistics, previously being in a very abusive relationship. However, the first six years of my current relationship were very vanilla. It was my decision to approach him with the idea of BDSM because I felt there was something missing in our relationship. Not wanting to lose him, I approached him and (thankfully) he was willing to learn about it and give it a try.

Quote: Its saddens me to read that many people "into" bdsm have been sexually abused in their younger years and many then move into bdsm feeling they are worthless and deserve nothing and hence fall into the sub role.

I assure you, I have a very healthy sense of self-esteem. I do not feel worthless or that I deserve nothing. I take a great deal of pride in my values, my job, my family, and how I serve my Dom (whether it be caring for our home, how I maintain my appearance, and in my behavior).