WOW! My partner used the candles on me and it was exquisite. I have never been so turned on in my life. I noticed the closer she got to my body with them the better the sting felt. Thanks for the links to the good advice. We will be making use of them a lot from now on. A new question for you all. I really love the stinging effect and we have played with what's called a rubber tickler. What type of leather flogger would give a good sting but little damage?