There is a most exquisite photography site on this particular fetish that I encourage Strangeguy to visit:

Birds of Paradise

BBW is a common acronym within the porn and BDSM world -- an impersonal acronym. The site above (I think) defines the 'beautiful' part of BBW.

My feeling also is that you (Strangeguy) encountered the problems you found quite simply because you unintentionally imposed your own aesthetic into groups that weren't designed to be receptive of them. Cariad has mentioned as much above, and I also now see you've dipped you toe in the personals forum. I wish you well in your search. Alas, it's only my bum that is big I personally don't mind to admit that anymore. The 'scene' has been a good place for me to gain perspective on such superficial things.

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