Dear pandy:

We have spoken at length on this issue and I want to take a moment to recapitulate: Physically, there is very little you can do to help your Master surmount his bout with depression -- you are at one end of the country and he is at the other -- but there is much you can do to reassure him emotionally and spiritually. Trying to stay in contact with him, as you can, will be most important; talk with an MD about steps you should take to help him along, if you are inclined, but most important, look after your own psychological welfare first.

A depressed Master must have a significant, negative impact on a loving submissive and the submissive must not allow herself to be dragged down by his depression-induced inattentions.

It may sound trite but it will take strength and courage of character on your part to help bring your Master around. You have shown me that you possess these characteristics and, along with your never-say-die attitude and behavior, I am confident that love will prevail and that you will be instrumental in his recovery.

I think you know already what it is you have to do and I wish you godspeed. Call me anytime you wish to talk.

With every best wish,

Yours sincererely,

Sailor



Quote Originally Posted by Pandora's Box
The Pandy saga continues.

As many of you know, my master just recently made a huge sacrifice for "us" and for me. He sold his club, his "baby", that he's owned for many years. It is now hitting him full force and he is facing a bit of a depression. He is sleeping a ton and is feeling listless. I know men often feel lost without their work. Plus add onto that, that he has to figure out what he's going to do now. And we can't forget the financial strain.

This, of course, has added some strain to our relationship. But nothing that is unmanagable, nor unreasonable.

What I'd like to know is what can I do to help him through this? I already know that I'm going to have to put aside some of my needs and focus on him and his needs. Something I'm willing to do, even if it will take a bit of practice. I've never had a man make such a huge sacrifice for me, so it is a small thing to do for him.

But, what else can I do? Besides be there for him?