Psy, my dear.... you just need to give yourself a break. You don't have to be everything to everyone all the time. Just allow yourself to be in the moment for a little while, without worrying about the larger repurcussions.

We all go through phases where we don't feel particularly submissive, or Dominant.... or sexual at all.

We all go through cycles, and sometimes sex just takes a back seat for a while. Don't worry... it will come back.

I seem to recall from your earlier posts that you have been with your husband since high school (I apologize if I am wrong on this)... in our late teens/early twenties we grow and mature a lot.... and sometimes it is like waking up as a whole new person. I agree that it is probably in your best interest to get to know yourself again.

Only once you do that can you really decide what the best course for you will be.

For the time being, don't worry about labels. Just be yourself.

*hugs*

-lily