Sir_Russell,
Thanks for posting these checklists - they are helping me see my frantic desires a little more clearly and objectively. I am praying to get up the nerve to fill one out and actually give it to my husband <gasp> in the hopes that it will alleviate his fears about hurting me in a way I don't like. (Which I suspect is his main objection to this part of our sexuality and life.) Now if I could just get over this darn shyness! (Not shy in the rest of my life activities, like work, friendships, etc. but I am way too worried about what he'll think of me )
Have a wonderful day!