I believe your first mistake was not being honest with yourself. And in turn with her.

You only half heartedly admitted your addiction. And yes it is an addiction. At one point you state it as an addiction, but then you turned around and stated you could "take it or leave it. (shrugs)"

Addictions don't work that way.

The alcoholic can't just take or leave alcohol. Nor can the smoker just take or leave cigarettes.

It's a battle you must fight with yourself. And from what I read above, you never commited yourself to that battle.

And so in the end, your addiction won out.

If I were you, I'd cut yourself off from cyber cold turkey and pour your efforts and energy into trying to win back your wife. If she's not happy with her current situation like you said then you may have a chance.

But you have to be honest with yourself. You can't have your cake and eat it too in this situation. That's the most dangerous lie of all because it underestimates the strength of your addiction.

I hope you make it through this. And I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but after you come to your conclusions, I hope to not see you again for a long long time. The computer and the internet is something you will have to gain control of. And to do that you'll have to unplug it.

I wish you and your wife the best.