Don't let him mope about, get him out doing things. Withdrawal feeds depression, he needs new stimuli as well as a way to re-structure his life. Almost uselessly vague advice I know but he has to get out there and look for new work and not shy away from friends and social activities or he could spiral down into depression. How can you make him do this? I don't know, short of dragging him out to places you could just encourage him to get out and do stuff. He's obviously very commited to your relationship so I'm really pleased for you given all the concerns that you've had recently, I hope you can make things work out. Incidently, why are you so far apart?