Just because this thread was brought to the top again.

Cyber bdsm, or rather cyber D/s is the only thing I’ve known so far. I do not, as far as I know, have a bdsm scene where I live, but then, I’ve not taken the time (yet) to seek one out.

I’m probably going way back past the relevance in this thread, but I feel I have to start there. Personally, I’ve always known there was something ‘different’ about me, something that made me sort of shy away from others. I’ve always been submissive I guess, but it’s only within the past few years that I’ve learnt what it really was. Those past few years, my learning curve and discovery of myself have been online, and I would not change a thing.

I met my online Dom about 1.5 years ago, just over I think, and at first we were just friends. We met at a forum/board, non kink related, and just clicked. It was through our discussions that I discovered that he used to be / was a Master, and I discovered I was able to tell him of my dreams, emotions and thoughts. He’s been nothing but caring, kind, helpful, and ‘there for me’ throughout my learning curve. Through him, I discovered myself, and that has only happened because of the ‘net.

Getting more back to the topic, I realise that online is vastly different to rl. I have never been in a chat room for bdsm ever, or anything remotely similar. My online experience has been with one person that I trust completely. For me personally, online is more about discovery and adventure, trust and honesty. Of course we have discussed things we’d like to happen, on both our parts, and have ‘scened’ many times too. Virtual spankings can be addictive But of course I also want to experience the rl bdsm / D/s adventure too. I want to feel what a spanking is like, light and hard. I want to be tied up and made available to his every whim. I want to feel the restraints, to be able to know what it’s all like, every last part. But I also want the emotional side of it in r/l too. I want him to take control and be the ‘Master’ of things. And I know he wants all this too, at some point in our relationship.

In regards to what Kiya said, yes there are some people who will think carefully about what they say online to others, they can form it just how they want it to look and how they think the Dom/me will want to ‘hear’ it. That’s entirely up to them, if they want to do it that way and not show the true them. I can honestly say I’ve never done that, however. With my Dom, I’ve always been me, like it or not (and he appears to like it ). I still maintain, I might be submissive, but I am my own person, I have my own mind, and yes, sometimes I’ll have ‘off’ days. That’s life, deal with it.

Cyber to me means information and learning. If you can find the right place, with people who know what they’re talking about, then it’s definitely a good thing. Like here for example. (sucking up over, promise)

That might, might not have made sense, but it was good to write.