I'm having a hard time understanding what the problem here is. So, I've a few questions to try and help me see the light before I offer any advice.

  1. Who was the person that did the scene at the party? What was her relationship to the poster of this thread?
  2. Does the poster of this thread have any real-time BDSM experience, or is his experience purely online?
  3. Why the bad reaction to the person at the party having a scene with someone else? I don't get it.
  4. Has the poster of this thread tried explaining any of this to the person that did the scene at the party? Or is the poster here just using this as a format to vent frustrations without seeking any actual help? Again, I don't get it.


At this point I have no advice for this person at all. Except to perhaps recommend some therapy for the overdeveloped sense of guilt and persecution from which he seems to suffer. With more specific information, I might be able to offer some advice later.