I think, if anything, that it is more current in the lifestyle than in vanilla world, for one Dom/me to have multiple subs; and that there is less stigma attached to that. For one sub to have multiple Dom/mes, Masters/istresses etc., is less well seen, and probably more difficult anyway: the dominant types are also very possesive a lot of the time! Certainly, I think we attach more social stigma, in the lifestyle as out of it, to women than to men. Quite strange really, in a world where being a total slut is a plus, it is still not right... to be a total slut!

Personally, I believe in one-to-one, fulfilling, loving relationships, and would very much like that to be how my life is. Various of you will know that that has not been happening for me recently. Everything is known by all parties, but actually, that does not make it easier, nice, alright, either my actions or the other peoples'. After all, managing to make a relationship work that contains only two people is hard enough, how on earth do we imagine that we can keep multiple people happy? But that is not really what ID was asking about.