Frankly I am shocked, having been absent from these boards for a while I had not seen this thread.

For someone to admit to ignoring a safeword, for me, goes against all the accepted and sensible rules which we, as adult and (supposed) sensible people should adhere to. The whole reason that we agree safewords is to enable communication to override the scene where the height of passion may cause us to see less clearly than we might. Now that sub will never know if a Dom will stop if she safes out.


One of my personal tenets as a Dominant is that I never lose control: and first and foremost that means of myself, as well as the situation. Ignoring the sub, and therefore losing control is one of the main ways that this lifestyle (or whatever you want to call it) gets a very bad name.

How can a supposed Dominant look himself in the mirror, or his sub in the eye after doing that?

I am speechless!!

MG