Why did you join this Forum?

[Dorkalicious]

I started reading the stories a while back and got interested. I didn't know there was a forums section for a long while after. I've joined because I believe I can learn something here. And of course the people I "meet" here is a plus, hehe.

[J's blu]

i joined originally so i could review stories, then i read some threads to learn and listen to people who were living the lifestyle hands on, flesh to flesh. i actually joined the academy if i remember rightly, but have not been there for a long time.

why do i keep comming back? the library still has some of the best reading around for free, the threads are varied and interesting, the member base is large enough that if i just feel like lurking for a while no-one gets upset, but if i want to say something i wont be howled down. i live in a fairly small country town, with not much chance of meeting people face to face, so for me, this forum is a life saver.

[H Dean]

....the member base is large enough that if i just feel like lurking for a while no-one gets upset, but if i want to say something i wont be howled down. i live in a fairly small country town, with not much chance of meeting people face to face, so for me, this forum is a life saver.

I never liked lurkers. Especially those who talk like you do. Man, people like you make me so mad!

[J's blu]

oh please dont get mad Sir, i would much rather You just
or even maybe or how about ,
but hey i knowz You luv me!! lol

[H Dean]

Tramp.

[J's blu]

and proud of it!!

[smilie]

I came here because i was looking for knowledge and i keep comming back because i found it here, I have found that there is a fountain of information and i want to use all i can

[Can's Peaches]

I joined at the suggestion of Sir. In fact he signed me up. He had already joined and had read some of the forums. I am newbie to the life style and he thought I could learn alot from the forums. I have to admit that he was right. I love this site. Everyone is so nice and it is so informative.

[floffe]

A typical reason that any person would decide not to stay at a forum is simply that he/she feels that it's hard to get into a group since everybody seems to know everybody where as the new guy/girl knows nobody. Getting across past that is the hardest part for new people at a forum.
At least thats how i feel atm. But then, its part of being new, and hopefully I too can find someone inhere to talk to

Oh... And i joined the forum because i was tired of not knowing anyone to whom i could talk to about bondage and bdsm... Which gets kinda annoying quite fast.

[cariad]

Hello floffe, and welcome to forums.

I can understand how daunting it must feel arriving as the new person and not knowing anyone. But please do linger. We really are delighted when new members arrive and start posting, and we really do want to include everyone in our community.

Well done on taking the plunge and making your first post, and I hope it will be the first of many.

cariad

[Amberxiao]

Well.

I joined because I'm curious and opinionated... which is the reason I join most forums, I suppose. I tend to be very shy in real life, but on forums, I tend to post a lot.

I've never "stayed" at any forum, though I'm hoping I'll stay at the writing forum for at least the next two years, since to do otherwise would mean I'd given up on a goal. The main reason I don't stay with a forum is that I have a lot of different interests, but tend to be rather singleminded about them. Right now, although I wasn't intending it to be the case, BDSM is the one I'm currently somewhat fixated on. I've been (barely) managing to keep up with the writing one, but I come here more often. The point is, though, that usually, I can only stay at one forum at a time, and I tend to post a lot on that forum when I'm there. Then, something will happen, and I'll either get interested in another topic and try to do the two or more forums thing or I'll get behind and feel I *need* to catch up (which is silly, I realize), but not want to do so, and then end up finding a new forum.

In any case, it's (so far) only been in one case that the actual forum was bad. I tend to be good at picking forums Incidentally, that forum was mainly devoted to people much younger than myself (i.e. teens) and there were a lot of difficult-to-read posts and a lot of stupid contests. Most of the time, I move on to a new forum because the new topic is more exciting than the old one. And I have been known to come back to old forums when the topic is interesting again.

[floffe]

The first post isnt really such a huge landmark... The first thread with many replies however, that's something

Until then, im just gonna be a lurker and check the site

[Rhabbi]

I first joined this forum a while age, but as one of those 1 day wonders. I did not wnat to puit any effort into this. My guess is that is why most of those who do not stick around leave, it is work to make a presence here. Plus, I am sure there are some wannabe's who thought this woul;d be an easy place to find sex.

Personally, I decided to stick around because I am who I am. I make mistakes, and I would like to have someone to talk about them with. It always helps to know people who will not call you stupid because you forgot to feed your pet, or because you left your slave in the closet to long. Things happen, and we need to know this so that we can grow and learn.

[Dark_One]

Hi everyone....

The reason I joined the site is because I was put onto it by FireWoman, another relative newbie.

I have always been facinated with BDSM and when I logged in for the first time I thought, "Where has this forum been hiding?"...

I enjoy nearly every pic I have seen so far and plan on taking some of my own for the very first time. I am a BDSM newbie and will enjoy sharing experiences with all of you.

I feel at home here already and have no doubt I will be here for a while to come...

[firewoman]

hello all...sorry l missed this thread earlier...

l'm here because l was invited by the delicious Wolfscout...he knows what a curious little mind l have and that l enjoy unleashing my inner kink every now and then

[daeira]

As i said in my introduction i have been away for awhile and thought this would be a great starting point to jump back in and hopefully meet others and form friendships...but i must admit i am kinda quiet at first but will always answer any questions anyone may have..

dae

[Rhabbi]

As i said in my introduction i have been away for awhile and thought this would be a great starting point to jump back in and hopefully meet others and form friendships...but i must admit i am kinda quiet at first but will always answer any questions anyone may have..

dae

Hello dae,

Probably not the best thing to say, I would answer most any question from most people, and almos any question from a few people, and any question from one or two people, but that is just me.

[Eponine]

When you say "why did you join this _forum_?", do you mean the whole website? or are you supposed to join a particular forum within the website...
confused...
But if i take your question to mean why do some people join and never return- i can answer that-
I generally don't have the time it takes to learn how to navigate around- not that it's not easy- it's a SUPER site, it's just there's SO much, which is again, SUPER, but i wish i had more time. SO I always end up just going to read stories, b/c i enjoy that and I know how to do it, so i can get to where i want quickly.
...so please let me know if i'm supposed to sign on with a certain forum??... i would choose bdsm library in that case.

[gagged_Louise]

ThisGirl: I guess the idea was to ask "what brought you here to the BDSM forum, how did you discover it and what were the things that made you stay around?" Too bad if you haven't found the time to discover the rich variety of people and discussions here; 98% of us have vanilla lives claiming time too but the feel;ng that this is actually a community, at once open to new people and caring and warm, not just an on-and-off discussion forum, has made it a vital part of my kinky lifestyle sphere.

As for myself, I came here in the beginning, nine months ago, over the library page - I was looking for some stories and noticed there was a discussion froum attached. As I moved around through the forum, the Games and RP boards began taking my attention and I realized I felt at home with the mix of inventive pain, civilized and relaxed language (I don't feel really at home discussing things that matter in the kind of chatty myspace lingo u hear frm ppl who pretty, like, grew up prancing da web & lol R converting all nubies - it works better in actual chat but I guess I need to write the way I've been used to doing). good spirits and nice people that made this forum live and breathe.

Before long I was getting in touch with Dominants, subs and slaves on the site (including my present Domme) and the closeness this room projects has kept me around; some of the people around here I think of as everyday friends even if I've never seen a real-life photo of any of them.

[Pete Moss]

I join because this site makes blood rush to my penis....after that I enjoy all the cool stuff.

PM

[Eponine]

I have been spending more time reading posts in the forums and I can see it truly is a community here...

It really is too bad that since the date I joined till now I missed out.

But I would like to change that now.

And to answer the original thread question:

What brought me here too was a search for bdsm stories and I was absolutely enthralled with the number of stories available. I was actually somewhat intimidated by the rest of the site- the forums, not really understanding how to get around. Now I've found it's not that scary, and there is so much to enjoy here too! I will keep coming back because this site offers the link to others like me... in the d/s world- whether currently living it or not... just reading words from other subs and from Masters and Mistresses makes me feel... comforted... that's a good word.

[blossom]

i`ve been visting this site and reading the stories for ages now(but only just signed up), ive really wanted to become part of something different, i wanted to make my dreams reality and to meet people like me, and who wouldnt think me stupid. ive only posted a couple of times but already i feel accepted with the replies i had and as long as i feel welcome i will keep coming back. i love it here already.

[pyarrie]

well lets see i joined today however i really really want to learn about me and my nature and how to please my master and i enjoyed the site and see the interactiveness of the people on the forum. Like everyone else I came in search of the stories. Found the academy and am trying to get involved with that and now with this forum I think I finally have the tools I need to get comfortable with this side of my life. I definetely think I will be back

[broadmeadow]

I joined because I'm genuinely curious and hungry. I don't want to be a one day wonder. I want to grow and explore.

[metoo]

I joined because I am very interested in the lifestyle...My other half and I have experimented with it quite a bit and I find I really enjoy being bound..and all that goes with it. I am hoping to find new and exciting ideas to make his life better....

[Msub44f]

I find the site very interesting and it keeps my dark side alive

[MMI]

...Easy - to find out what this is all about, because I've always wondered but never found anyone who seemed interested. I have no interest in being dominated or enslaved (but I might be intersted the other way round). So who wants to take my hand and show me around?

[ashsoul]

Well, first of all I knew all my life that something is "different" in me, as years passed I learned more and more about this little dirty secret. I am not in the "scene" however if inner bdsm life does not count

As I got permanent access to the world wide web, I instantly found myself in a virtual community of bdsm-ers viewing a lot of nasty sites I found matching
to my desires.

As I was searching for bdsm stories, I came upon this site via the google search engine listing...and since then I am here, lurking for new stories for my liking. Besides I found the chat-room very appealing. It is great to interactively share ideas with people who are "suffering" in the same disease

So I keep coming back, but yet I am a newbie to the forums which I only lately discovered. It seems that on each occasion I come here I feel more and more comfortable to be amongst you, folks!

As for why some people come and go? I think they do not really got that "disease" which needs feeding...

Joyfully yours,
ashsoul

ps. sorry for my english

[angelic.zest]

"hellooooo waves hi to all the new comers* i stated coming here through reading. stories and one day i wanted to post a reply, and needed to make an account...so i'm here and loving every minute of it. Meet some really nice ppl *smirk* that i sooo enjoy, and im sure you will also. Welcome again to all the new comers!

kurixxx

[sme6068]

For years I have read stories on BDSMLibrary, and have even tried to submit one or two, although my writing skills are marginal. For as long as I can remember I have had submissive, and in fact rather violent, fantasies. Forums such as this have seemed to be a way to satisfy my submissive cravings without "socially unacceptable" behavior. Now I find that I really want to discuss and share my fantasies with others. I guess I want some confirmation that I am not insane for having these feelings and desires.